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Monday, March 22
Please Help
I knew it might be a little bit of a challenge going back to work after a week home with the kids. Tonight at bedtime I told Wilder I had to go back to work tomorrow. What proceeded was me attempting to explain to a 3 year old why I had to go to work. "But we already have new clothes and a house and lots of money." Then, yes, he said it..."why don't you love me anymore?" I about cried. I'm curious what has worked for other working moms in helping little ones understand.
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Oh Shelly. I'm so sorry. Just today my daughter asked me when am I ever going to be done playing my violin because she's so lonely when I'm gone? This is a week where I'm gone out of town every night. I just always let her know that there is nowhere else I would rather be than with her, but I have to work some. She seems to understand and loves reminding me how badly I don't want to go sometimes. "But you love me the best Mom...."
Someday our kids are going to know how hard it was for us to work some when they were little, and they are also going to look back with respect for what you did. As long as they know you love them more than anything. Hello, they're our kids! :) Summer's just around the corner. Maybe remind them of that...
I read somewhere that you should never tell your children, "I wish I didn't have to go to work" or
things of that nature because it confuses them. They don't understand why you're going if you really don't want to.
Instead, I've heard, try explaining your job and why it's important you go. This may get easier when Wilder starts going to school this summer because you can explain to them that all children need good teachers to help them learn, so they can be really smart and creative and make their parents proud. And just like his teachers help him do that, your job is to help other children.
He'll always know that he and Gwynny are the most important people in your life, but helping him understand why your job is important may make it a bit easier to say goodbye to you in the morning. You know what you could also do? Play "school" with him a couple of evenings or on the weekend. Show him what you do at work and why it's important. And if you can (and you've probably already done this), take him to school with you and show him your classroom. Knowing where you are and what you're doing might make the separation a bit easier for him.
Again, this is all stuff I've heard or read about. I haven't yet had to have the discussion with Isaac. When it comes, though, I'll be asking you for advice!
Love you!
This may get easier when Wilder starts going to school this summer because you can explain to them that all children need good teachers to help them learn, so they can be really smart and creative and make their parents proud. And just like his teachers help him do that, your job is to help other children.
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